For many women menopause is just another change happening to her body. It is an experience for many that has never seen the good light shine upon it. What is even more remarkable is that those who have never biologically experienced menopause seem to have a personal negative opinion of the experience of many women. This is, even if they have never met a woman in menopause. Eek! How does the light ever shine on this extraordinary phenomenon when it is shrouded in negativity? Let’s face it at least half the world population will experience menopause and at least half wont, that means a majority of the world view of menopause isn’t looking good!
In my personal experience as a woman who grew up with a mother and 5 other female siblings, of who, many were at least 14 years my senior, there has never been any acknowledgement or celebration of moving into or through this extraordinary phase of life.
None of my friends or my family of women ever presented it as anything to be proud of and I never heard my mother say anything about it. Did that mean she didn’t have menopause? I don’t think so. Mum may have had a hysterectomy after the ninth child, but I’m sure that did not stop her genetics from biologically, energetically and emotionally moving within her. As a teen I would have just gotten my bleeding cycle. Wow what a household, seven females and 4 males. No one talked about anything! I remember going through the whole period thing in silence and that’s another story!
Menopause for me, has in the past been shrouded in mystery, disdain, dread and shame. This was not appealing to my well-being especially since I am now moving with it, and since I have the belief that you create your own reality. I set about ‘going in’, yep, that means connecting with me on a whole new level of biological, energetical and emotional awareness.
I also did a Google Search. Google was less than satisfying since type in ‘menopause’ and you’ll get a whole run down on dry vaginas and how to buy topical creams that make your vagina moist. You will also be informed of every negative thing that menopause can possibly give you. If that’s not enough to incite depression and doom and gloom the conflict into medical intervention will!
It is really important to me to create awareness through my menopause years. I understand through my own spiritual life practice that being emotionally available to myself through this process is going to give me my own connection with menopause. I wanted to be able to embrace this new energy that I was now moving into and with. Along with my own thoughts, emotions, and physical goings on, I also read literature that empowers woman in her menopause. This is so valuable to woman. It is valuable because it is essential that woman create her own experiences that are life empowering. Let’s face it, we got a lot of imbalances going on around menopause and way to many opinions are not the opinions of our own. Let us bring back balance and harmony in our extraordinary life change.
You know, all these amazing changes in mighty contrast to what once was, is exciting to me. It’s exciting because I get to choose how I want to feel in my change of life process. I get to think about me. I get to choose my comfort levels and I get to choose my company. I get to choose how empowered I want to be and that means to me having a voice and the fucking right to be me as I choose, in this extraordinary experience of my life. If I want a rest, I’m going to rest and if I want to cook I will and if not I won’t, if I want to sit in a hot flush and just bask in the moment and totally accept that this is happening I bloody well will, and I’ll do it with pride.
One of the things that was overtly interesting to me before my menopause gained momentum is that, many women who had passed from menopause and into crone phase told me if they brought awareness into what they were feeling when they hot flushed along with other changes and, accepted these changes as they were going through them, they didn’t feel as challenged. That’s not to say they didn’t experience discomfort, what it meant is that they felt able to navigate their sense of self with more clarity, through emotional awareness. For those who were stuck in their past grief and trauma, they were less likely to experience their process with ease and felt that they had no control.
What became evident to me and what helps me is that when I accept the movement of menopause, I can then sink into what is happening with a sense of emotional awareness and, with that comes a deep sense of inner peace. I can then embrace the process as one that is honouring as woman.
It is really important to me that we as woman learn to welcome menopause as a rite of passage and as an honoured part of wisdom into our later years of life.
The more I feel into my woman, I am taken back to our ancestral inheritance that gave reverence to our body’s biological and rhythmic dance of life.
I have a great passion that women feel their right to be at ease and comfort and to be empowered and supported in menopause. How can we do that if we are not recognising this extraordinary transformation that moves through us into another phase of our human lives?
As we lean more into our menopause rite of passage as a way to honour the self, we then make way for others to do the same